Mulheres e a madresposa que há em nós : a educação para o amor romântico

• Ano de defesa: 2019
• Autor(a) principal: Campagnaro, Sara
• Orientador(a): Eggert, Edla
• Tipo de documento: Dissertação
• Tipo de acesso: Acesso aberto
• Idioma: por
• Instituição de defesa: Pontifícia Universidade Católica do Rio Grande do Sul
• Programa de Pós-Graduação: Programa de Pós-Graduação em Educação
• Departamento: Escola de Humanidades
• País: Brasil
• Palavras-chave em Português: Mulheres; Amor Romântico; Educação; Women; Romantic Love; Education
• Palavras-chave em Inglês: Madresposa
• Área do conhecimento CNPq: CIENCIAS HUMANAS::EDUCACAO
• Link de acesso: http://tede2.pucrs.br/tede2/handle/tede/8624

Love interweaves daily in relationships between men and women, becoming a socialized learning by human beings, forming subjectivities and concretely manifesting on how we deal with the world and others. However, the means of teaching and learning love are distinctly different to men and women, and it is transparent how love is placed as the primary focus in women’s lives. The purpose of this research is to analyze the educational processes that construct the existence of women in the experience of love, based on the ideology of romantic love problematization. This is a bibliographic study that focuses on the problematization of romantic love as an ideal of unconditional love, which creates a social role in women’s lives to be naturally giving and caring towards others. We seek to reflect and criticize the construction of a patriarchal society based on romantic love and, in contrast to that, we present the notion of love as a socio-historical construction, and analyze how women learn how to naturalize love as the center of their lives; furthermore, they learn how to voluntarily serve by investing their vital energy in favor of others, even without receiving recognition. To that end, we immersed in discussions of the Mexican anthropologist Marcela Lagarde y de los Ríos, specifically focusing on her concept of madresposa, which exposes the social captivity expected for women that is being a self-less mother and wife. In support of that reading, the ideas of French philosopher Simone de Beauvoir were approached, so that through the feminist hermeneutics we can understand the oppressions involved in the education of a madresposa. Women’s education for romantic love happens in all spheres of influence in society, and the basis for this line of teaching is already in place even before the birth of a child. We identified traces of this educational process, which aims at the construction of a madresposa. The downfall of teaching romantic love as the focus in women’s lives is the renunciation of self for other people (such as husband, children, and relatives); the struggles involved in being self-sufficient and discovering self-love; the abandonment of personal projects; low self-esteem related to body image (for not being in an “ideal weight”, for example); the expressions of women’s sexuality as a taboo,among others. Considering education as a broad process that daily shapes our being, at the end of this research, it becomes evident that rethinking and re-evaluating the ways love is taught in women’s lives is essential for them to seek new ways to relate in a loving manner with themselves and with others.